Does God Restrict Christians From Dating Non-Christians?

[voxteen]

Like to hear the Christian community and Non-Christians view on - "Does God Restrict Christians From Dating Non-Christians?"

This is because the girl I am going after is rejecting me by saying that there will be no good ending to our relationship.

Is that an excuse or real?

What if I insist on not becoming a Christian as I think if i become a Christian it is all because of her and it will be so fake !

I really like her but ... please advise. Thanks.

[Dark Lord]

Originally Posted by voxteen

Like to hear the Christian community and Non-Christians view on - "Does God Restrict Christians From Dating Non-Christians?"

This is because the girl I am going after is rejecting me by saying that there will be no good ending to our relationship.

Is that an excuse or real?

What if I insist on not becoming a Christian as I think if i become a Christian it is all because of her and it will be so fake !

I really like her but ... please advise. Thanks.

St Paul tells us that marrying a non-christian is alright. The Catholic Church calls it the Pauline Dispensation.

[mon90yo]

Most likely the girl bullshit about being no good ending to your relationship.

Find another girl, this girl no good, there are many girls in the world, don't miss others for her sake, she not worth it.

[huhman]

You got yourself a lying Christian woman.

Think you better reconsider and find a better considerate woman.

[Peiling]

Seems like a Christian need to say something

Voxteen, first of all, I applaud you for your honesty.
That if you become a Christian, its only because of her and it would be fake and you dont want to do it. Being a Christian is a decision and a personal relationship with God. You should never do it for another person, because you would then be lying to yourself and to God.

Please see attach bible passage. Yes, Christians are not to marry non-christians. There are differences in beliefs and way of life which may not be apparent now but will be in future and this will lead to conflicts in a marriage. Hence, knowing this, the girl has tried to tell you that it would be impossible and would rather not even start a relationship with a non-believer.

If you really like her, perhaps you can consider going to church and finding out more about Christianity and getting to know God and entering into a personal relationship with God first?

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2 Corinthians 6:13-15 (Bible)
14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15What harmony is there between Christ and Belial[a]? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?

[Dark Lord]

Originally Posted by Peiling

Seems like a Christian need to say something

Voxteen, first of all, I applaud you for your honesty.
That if you become a Christian, its only because of her and it would be fake and you dont want to do it. Being a Christian is a decision and a personal relationship with God. You should never do it for another person, because you would then be lying to yourself and to God.

Please see attach bible passage. Yes, Christians are not to marry non-christians. There are differences in beliefs and way of life which may not be apparent now but will be in future and this will lead to conflicts in a marriage. Hence, knowing this, the girl has tried to tell you that it would be impossible and would rather not even start a relationship with a non-believer.

If you really like her, perhaps you can consider going to church and finding out more about Christianity and getting to know God and entering into a personal relationship with God first?

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2 Corinthians 6:13-15 (Bible)
14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15What harmony is there between Christ and Belial[a]? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?

1 Cor 7:12-15

To the married, however, I give this instruction (not I, but the Lord): 7 a wife should not separate from her husband --and if she does separate she must either remain single or become reconciled to her husband--and a husband should not divorce his wife. To the rest 8 I say (not the Lord): if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she is willing to go on living with him, he should not divorce her; and if any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to go on living with her, she should not divorce her husband. For the unbelieving husband is made holy through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy through the brother. Otherwise your children would be unclean, whereas in fact they are holy.

St Paul says it is alright for us to marry non-christians...

[Josh]

Paul wasn't talking about getting married here, otherwise he will be contrdicting himself. He said if you have a spouse who is not a Christian, that means you probably became a Christian after you got married, don't use Christianity as an excuse to divorce your spouse.

[Dark Lord]

Originally Posted by Josh

Paul wasn't talking about getting married here, otherwise he will be contrdicting himself. He said if you have a spouse who is not a Christian, that means you probably became a Christian after you got married, don't use Christianity as an excuse to divorce your spouse.

In the uneven yoke verse, is there any hint of marriages? The verse merely shows that Christianity is imcompatible with paganism.

The time when Paul speaks about marriage, he goes to tell that marriage with an unbeliever can sanctify him/her.

And if he was talking about marraige here, then I must be blind as there are numerous terms such as spouse, husband, wife etc.

Then again, your theology (not your intepretation of Holy Writ) might be right as Catholics are generally discouraged from marrying non-christians and christian heretics such as marcionites, arians and protestants.

[Josh]

You are right in that the verse does not apply to marriage alone. For example it can be applied to setting up a business with a non-Christian. In all these situations, compatibility is critical to success. Unless your faith in God is just something you add on to your life, ie it is not an integral part of your life, you will end up having a lot of conflict with your non-Christian partner.

[Dark Lord]

Originally Posted by Josh

You are right in that the verse does not apply to marriage alone. For example it can be applied to setting up a business with a non-Christian. In all these situations, compatibility is critical to success. Unless your faith in God is just something you add on to your life, ie it is not an integral part of your life, you will end up having a lot of conflict with your non-Christian partner.

Precisely.

The question is on the practicality of adminsitering the sacrament of marriage to a mixed mirrage with a disparity of cult (even in inter-denominational marriages) rather than the efficacy of the sacramanent if it was administered to a mixed marriage.

This brings me back to my point that no where in Scripture does St Paul question the efficacy of a mixed marriage...he may have questioned its practicality though. Hence it is alright to date a non-christian if the practicalites woes will not affect you.

A stricter intepretation could be that one is only allowed to marry another from his OWN denomination as other denominations are contradictory and conflicting. However this is not the case as Holy Writ never questioned the validity of a mixed marriage but only its practicality and since most christians can find a compromise, its ill-effects are hardly seen.

Hence mixed marriage is alright!