If you read the newspapers, you would have come across news about other marriages ending up in  divorce due to adultery by either the husband or the wife. It is reasonable for you to think that whoever the person that committed the adultery is a bad person & is sinful. You may also have come across and hear from your friends that so and so had committed adultery & their marriage has to break up. This time you have a stunned reaction for upon close examination of adulterer whom you know, you felt that it is impossible for that person to commit adultery as the person appears to you to be good natured, considerate, kind hearted and doesn't appear to be a sinful person. How did this adultery affair happen? Where did it go wrong?

Most people thought that adultery or extra-marital affair happens because the adulterer is evil & sinful in nature. This is partly true in some adultery cases for men who are lustful & evil. For women, most of the time it is not the case. It is not in women's nature to seek out other men to satisfy themselves. Usually, they do not purposely go around seeking & hunting for men unlike lustful men who deliberately seek out women to have a fling & affair.

Most marriage books or marriage counselor advocate having a happy & loving marriage to prevent an affair or adultery from happening. But let's be realistic, as it is quite impossible for all marriages to be happy & loving all the time. All marriages have their ups & downs, quarrels, misunderstandings, momentarily unhappiness etc. Satan & his demons are also working 24 hours a day 365 days non-stop scheming to break up marriages using human weakness like selfishness to create unhappiness & quarrels in marriages or using weakness for wealth to create dissatisfaction with current monetary marriage situation thereby seeking outside rescuer.

Most adultery cases come in the form of close friendship, developed over a period of time after close frequent communication. Adultery usually doesn't happen overnight but over a period of time. Satan & his demons are very smart & packaged adultery so nicely in the form of good friend thing and love that parties in sin of adultery do not realize that they are committing sin of adultery but it is only forbidden love. Adultery will not happen easily if there are no opportunities for adultery to happen & no close frequent communication between two future adulterous parties. The key thing is talking frequently & deeply to opposite sex outside the marriage and not being considerate to your spouse. When you share your feelings or talk frequently & deeply to opposite sex outside the marriage, you are opening the door & an opportunity for your marriage to end up in divorce because you will eventually develop feelings for each other over period of time. Your days of hunting for a spouse are over and therefore should concentrate on making marriage work rather than seeking outside for love or companionship.

Some readers may thought that married couples forgot their married vows or did not love one another. It is not that people forget their marriage vows but that frequent & deep communication with opposite sex outside marriage have changed friendship to love. In some cases, married couples do love one another but because one spouse was not careful with such a communication (thinking it is no big deal) fall in love with 3rd party through frequent deep conversations and into sin of adultery. Marriages are breaking up at increasingly rate partly because there are more opportunities for process of adultery to take place in this modern society where husband & wife spend more time in a working environment where there are immense amount of male & female interactions. 

Satan & his demons are very very smart. Satan & his demons know very well that all marriages have their ups & downs, quarrels, misunderstandings, momentarily unhappiness etc. To bring about sin of adultery and break up in any marriage, all Satan & his demons need to do is to influence whoever the selfish person in that marriage to be inconsiderate, to care about himself or herself and not to consider the feelings of the other partner and whispering in the selfish person's weak mind to rationalize that it is alright to talk frequently & deeply to opposite sex outside the marriage and sharing deep feelings with opposite sex outside marriage. Over time, with more shared feelings, combining with marital misunderstandings or lack of communication due to character flaws of not trusting own spouse but trusting more of external sources, illicit closeness & love will developed and as already being inconsiderate to one's partner, Satan & his demons will come in again & deceive that it is alright to go to bed with someone outside the marriage because the partner will never know as it will be between two adulterous parties & no one else will know. For the grand finale, Satan & his demons will step in with evil intention to reveal that one's partner has gone to bed with others so that both will quarrel badly resulting in either divorce or murder or suicide.

If you truly love your spouse, do be considerate and not put your own marriage in jeopardy and consider the feelings of your partner who should be your best friend & chit chat partner. Don't fall to Satan & his demons who convince you that it is alright to talk frequently & deeply & share feelings with opposite sex outside your marriage. These are lies & deceptions by Satan & his demons and you should tell Satan & his demons that such days are over & you want to concentrate on loving & cherishing your spouse.

If spouses guard their marriages by being very careful in their communication with opposite sex outside marriage, Satan & his demons will not succeed that easily in their dark deeds in sending another person to go after any spouse as feelings did not take root & grow between the pursuer & Satan's target as there were no frequent deep conversations or confiding in each other. Most people take it very lightly that it is alright to talk frequently & deeply to opposite sex outside marriage and with demons-infested so called marriage experts advocating personal space & freedom in a marriage, we have more & more divorces via adultery route due to frequent deep communication with opposite sex outside marriage. We write this article today with the help of our Lord God & Holy Spirit to show the truth so that married couples stay married and children not torn apart with divorce. 

Be very careful of whoever tells you that it is alright to talk frequently & closely with opposite sex outside marriage, for your own marriage sake avoid them & reject them as they are bad influence to your marriage. Don't fall to Satan & his demons lies & deceptions that your spouse is controlling who you can talk to outside your marriage when your spouse has good intentions to guard your marriage. Know your enemy, know their lies & deceptions. Any bullshit marriage counselor or marriage books that tell you that you need to have personal space & freedom and that it is alright to follow your heart and talk frequently & deeply to opposite sex outside marriage thereby leading to sin of adultery is sent by Satan & his demons. Cast that selfish marriage counselor or marriage books away and stay away from them & your marriage will be more secured than others who follow their rubbish ways of thought.

Christians have also fallen to sin of adultery for they have not been careful in guarding their communication with opposite sex outside marriage. They could not understand why they have fallen to sin of adultery. They could not understand why God did not protect them or alert them to sin of adultery & blame God for causing them to sin. If they have re-examined their own actions, they would realise that they are selfish & caring more about themselves than their spouse. They did not honour or cherish their spouse and did not work on their marriage but focus more on chatting outside marriage, seeking externally companionship or solutions with opposite sex outside marriage leading them to their downfall eventually.

We can see now that Satan & his demons are very powerful and came in through our human weakness. Satan & his demons made use of a deceitful heart i.e. feelings, selfish character, inconsiderate behaviour, unhappiness, quarrels and human weakness to cause adultery leading to divorce. Don't give Satan any helping hand or assistance by not guarding your communication with opposite sex outside marriage.

It is easy to blame Satan for causing us to sin in adultery and marriage ending up in divorce. We should not blame anyone but ourselves for sinning. We did not stand firm to God's 10 commandments & the scripture. Satan & his demons will not succeed in causing us to commit the sin of adultery if we follow the teachings of Jesus Christ of "love thy neighbour" which is your wife or husband and not acted anything against loving or harming your neighbour. We cannot blame Satan for causing us to sin as we are of weak mind and will and did not guard the mind and spirit against such temptations to sin or guard against selfish thoughts. We have ourselves to blame and should take responsibility & repent and ask God for forgiveness and not sin again.

Now that we know how Satan & his demons can bring about havoc and destruction in our life. We must therefore guard against whisperings, negative emotional thoughts, selfish thoughts, jealousy thoughts etc and adhere strictly to God's commandment and God's word so that no matter and however Satan & his demons try to influence our mind to bring about destruction, they will fail as we are on constant alert for such openings and influencing of minds to sins. Therefore stand firm my brothers & sisters in Christ, do not let Satan & his demons influence any of us in any way. Constantly guard our thoughts & spirit and not be selfish but be holy.

With thanks & guidance to God & Holy Spirit For Article - SingaporeChristiansOnline.com