Do you know how many marriages end up in divorce in Singapore? How many marriages are there and how many divorces are there every year? What are the chances & possibilities of my marriage ending in divorce? What is the statistical chance of that happening to my marriage?

According to government data (http://www.singstat.gov.sg/keystats/surveys/popnindicators.pdf), in year 2005 there were 6,909 divorces & 22,992 marriages. It seems that approximately 30% in marriages (6,909/22,992) might end up in divorce. And these are only the surface froth marriages that cannot be rescued and end up in divorce. What about those unhappy marriages that do not result in divorce i.e. those marriages below the iceberg?

If approximately 30% of marriages end up in divorces, then there should be a greater percentage of marriages that are unhappy, loveless, tolerate-each-other, or not-going-anywhere. Very possibly, in these unhappy marriages both partners without love grudgingly tolerate each other for their sake of the children, or close one eye to extra-marital affairs for the sake of their children or the marriage is in name only.

Do you want your marriage to end up as another statistic to be added to Singapore's divorce rate? Let us not believe in fairy tales & assume that it will be other people's marriages that will end up in divorce but not mine. No matter what you think, we believe that Satan & his demons are out there 24 hours a day 365 days non-stop scheming to break up marriages using human weakness like selfishness, arrogance, low resistance to temptations etc. Already we are being delayed to put up this article to warn others of Satan & his demons' dark schemes. Fortunately for us God's mighty Angels & Holy Spirit are with us to enable us to come up with this article to warn all couples not to be complacent in their marriages and not to fall to Satan & his demons and their evil deeds.

How do Satan & his demons create havoc on Earth & destroy marriages so that couples will turn against each other? We must know how the Great Serpent & his legions of demons cause marriages to break down so that we can stand guard at all times against Satan & his demons. By knowing how Satan & his demons do their work to unravel marriages, we then know how to guard our marriages against them. In this article, we will discuss how Satan & his demons cause men or women to commit sin of adultery that may lead to divorce. We shall discuss in further articles on other ways Satan & his demons use to create havoc that may lead to divorce.

Most adultery cases came in the form of friendship, developed over a period of time after close frequent communication. Adultery usually doesn't happen overnight but over a period of time. Adultery will not happen easily if there are no opportunities for it to happen & there are no close frequent communication between two potential adulterous parties. The key thing is talking frequently & deeply to opposite sex outside of the marriage and not being considerate to your spouse. When you share your feelings or talk frequently & deeply to opposite sex outside of the marriage, you are inadvertently opening a door & an opportunity for your marriage to end up in divorce because you will eventually develop feelings for the other person over period of time. However you should note that your days of hunting for a spouse are already over and therefore you should concentrate on making your marriage work rather than seeking outside for love and/or companionship.

Some readers may thought that married couples forgot their married vows or did not love one another. It is not that people forget their marriage vows but that frequent & deep communication with opposite sex outside marriage have changed friendship to love. In some cases, married couples do love one another but because one spouse was not careful with such a communication (thinking it is no big deal) fall in love with 3rd party through frequent deep conversations and into sin of adultery. Marriages are breaking up at increasingly rate partly because there are more opportunities for process of adultery to take place in this modern society where husband & wife spend more time in a working environment where there are immense amount of male & female interactions. 

Satan & his demons are very, very smart. Satan & his demons know very well that all marriages have their ups & downs, quarrels, misunderstandings, momentarily unhappiness, etc. Satan & his demons make use of one's selfishness combining with marriages ups & downs to bring about sin of adultery. To bring about sin of adultery and break up a marriage, all Satan & his demons need to do is to influence whoever the selfish person in that marriage is to be inconsiderate, to care about himself or herself and not to consider the feelings of the other partner and whispering in the selfish person's weak mind to rationalize that it is alright to talk frequently & deeply to opposite sex outside the marriage and sharing deep feelings with opposite sex outside marriage. Over time, with more shared feelings, combining with marital misunderstandings or lack of communication due to character flaws of not trusting own spouse but trusting more of external sources, illicit closeness & love will developed and as already being inconsiderate to one's partner, Satan & his demons will come in again & deceive that it is alright to go to bed with someone outside the marriage because the partner will never know as it will be between two adulterous parties & no one else will know. For the grand finale, Satan & his demons will step in with evil intention to reveal that one's partner has gone to bed with others so that both will quarrel badly, resulting in either divorce or murder or suicide.

If you truly love your spouse, do be considerate and not put your own marriage in jeopardy and consider the feelings of your partner who should be your best friend & chit chat partner. Don't fall to Satan & his demons who convince you that it is alright to talk frequently & deeply & share feelings with opposite sex outside your marriage. These are lies & deceptions put up by Satan & his demons and you should tell Satan & his demons that such days are over & you want to concentrate on loving & cherishing your spouse.

If spouses guard their marriages by being very careful in their communication with opposite sex outside marriage, Satan & his demons will not succeed that easily in their dark deeds in sending another person to go after any spouse as feelings did not take root & grow between the pursuer & Satan's target as there were no frequent deep conversations or confiding in each other. Most people take it very lightly that it is alright to talk frequently & deeply to opposite sex outside marriage and with demons-infested so called marriage experts advocating personal space & freedom in a marriage, we have more & more divorces via adultery route due to frequent deep communication with opposite sex outside marriage. We write this article today with the help of our Lord God & Holy Spirit to show the truth so that married couples stay married and children not torn apart with divorce. 

Be very careful of whoever tells you that it is alright to talk frequently & closely with opposite sex outside marriage, for your own marriage sake avoid them & reject them as they are bad influence to your marriage. Don't fall to Satan & his demons lies & deceptions that your spouse is controlling who you can talk to outside your marriage when your spouse has good intentions to guard your marriage. Know your enemy, know their lies & deceptions. Any bullshit marriage counselor or marriage books that tell you that you need to have personal space & freedom and that it is alright to follow your heart and talk frequently & deeply to opposite sex outside marriage thereby leading to sin of adultery is sent by Satan & his demons. Cast that selfish marriage counselor or marriage books away and stay away from them & your marriage will be more secured than others who follow their rubbish ways of thought.

Satan & his demons can use another method of feelings of the heart to cause the break up of marriage by influencing the mind of a lustful nature of man to shower emotional words of love to another married woman so much so that the married woman rejects the husband's many years of love & commit sin of adultery by accepting the lustful man's flowery, heart wrenching & beautiful words of love at the time when her husband is busy with work & does not shower enough attention to his wife or that the married woman is weak in will & mind and is easily persuaded by the lustful man through emotional manipulation thereby leading the woman to commit a grave sin. We understand that it is very difficult to withstand temptations & reject another person's illicit love when there exist marital misunderstandings or unhappiness or invisible wall barrier between spouses. One way or the other, somebody has to be rejected, it is either your spouse or the other. You have to remember that all these are Satan's & his demons' work - combining marital ups & downs with a fervent, emotional manipulative chaser to create illicit love & causing man to fall to sin of adultery when man is weak. Therefore in face of such an onslaught by Satan & his demons we should stand firm in face of great temptation and resign from the company if that person is your working colleague. Change your contact numbers so that whoever that demons infested weak person cannot contact you forever and at the same time you protect your marriage and yourself to avoid the terrible sin of adultery with equally terrible & unavoidable consequences of sin.

We can see now that Satan & his demons are very powerful and come in through our human weakness. Satan & his demons make use of deceitful heart i.e. feelings, selfish character, inconsiderate behaviour, unhappiness, quarrels and human weakness, to cause adultery leading to divorce. Don't give Satan any helping hand or assistance by not guarding your communication with opposite sex outside marriage.

It is easy to blame Satan for causing us to sin in adultery and marriage ending up in divorce. We should not blame anyone but ourselves for sinning. We did not stand firm to God's 10 commandments & the scripture. Satan & his demons will not succeed in causing us to commit the sin of adultery if we follow the teachings of Jesus Christ of "love thy neighbour" which is your wife or husband and not acted anything against loving or harming your neighbour. We cannot blame Satan for causing us to sin as we have a weak mind and do not guard the mind and spirit against such temptations to sin or guard against selfish thoughts. We have ourselves to blame and should take responsibility & repent and ask God for forgiveness and not sin again.

Now that we know how Satan & his demons can bring about havoc and destruction in our life. We must therefore guard against whisperings, negative emotional thoughts, selfish thoughts, jealousy thoughts etc and adhere strictly to God's commandment and God's word so that no matter and however Satan & his demons try to influence our mind to bring about destruction, they will fail as we are on constant alert for such openings and influencing of minds to sins. Therefore my brothers and sisters, stand firm  in Christ, do not let Satan & his demons influence any of us in any way. Constantly guard our thoughts & spirit and not be selfish but be holy.

With thanks & guidance to God & Holy Spirit For Article - SingaporeChristiansOnline.com